You'd complain if I posted porn pictures, wouldn't you?

A friend of mine (CraftyMom) posted on her FB today a picture of Morpheus saying "What if I told you, you can be against animal cruelty, without posting pictures of dying animals?"

Someone replied basically saying how else can you raise awareness, loads of people don't have a clue what's going on, and she'll still post those pictures and CraftyMom is welcome to unfriend her if she doesn't want to see it kiss hug kiss hug kiss hug < / passive aggressive>.

You can easily post a link, saying "this is why I'm against animal cruelty. Warning: Contains graphic images."
It's bloody jarring to be scrolling through your News Feed, doobeedoo, and OH GOD WHAT IN THE EVER LOVING HELL IS THAT SWEET BABY JEEBUS! I've seen that kind of thing in my own News Feed, and I'm not joking when I say I literally dry heave, and on really bad days I spend most of the day trying not to cry.

I know there's animal cruelty. It's something that I'm very against and I try to combat it when I can. But saying that posting those kinds of pictures is the only way to raise awareness is like saying that posting pictures of the brutal genital mutilation African teenaged girls go through is the only way to raise awareness.

Rather post a link, and let your friends decide if they want to click it or not. Don't shove it into their faces.

PS that's a picture of my dog, sleeping. Hard life, innit...

Work out undies!

Sooooo, I've been known to go to gym every now and then. Ok, three times a week. I have a trainer. DON'T JUDGE ME.

Anyway, I feel the need to make the following request of some of my fellow gym-goers:

Please wear underwear!

That goes for both genders. Espeically if you're wearing any kind of clingy material. If I can tell if you're circumsized, dudes, wear underwear. Or better yet, wear shorts over those lycra tights, please? Pretty please? Alas, baggy cotton tracksuit pants have a tendency to...cling. There was a particularly good looking chap at the gym in soft cotton tracksuit pants. It wasn't his well-defined shoulders that drew everyone's eye, mkay?

Ladies - same goes for you. Sweaty camel toe - ew. It's even worse when you're on the floor, on your back, with one of those giant exercise balls between your legs and...well....yeah.

Sports bras are awesome. Even if you're super dainty breasted, running bra-less is not good for your titties. And it looks painful. I cringe and want to get you an ice pack. I'm pretty certain if I were to try running bra-less, I would knock myself unconcious and give myself two black eyes. Not pretty!

Castration cure for rape?

I've been seeing some letters and articles on local news sites recently, calling for castration/chemical castration as a punishment for rapists.

That's all good and well, but what these people don't realise is, rape is not about sex. It's about power. It's about taking power away from the victim and giving it to yourself.

Some rape victims have, in an attempt to stop this from happening, claimed to be HIV positive or to have AIDS. The rapist then penetrated them with something else, like a table leg.

So sure, chop off the rapist's genitals, or prevent them from having sex via chemicals. I can guaran-damn-tee you that they will find some way of debasing their victim without using their penises.

The real answer to this is education. Raise your boys right and they will be men. A real man has respect for others, for their needs and their boundaries. Hell, raise your GIRLS right. Some of the shitty things I've heard/read other women say about rape victims..."Ugh, look at how she was dressed, she was asking for it!" "She wasn't raped, she just regretted fucking him the next morning"

Why is it that rape is a crime wherein the victim is investigated as much, if not more than, the perpetrator? If someone's car is stolen from their driveway, you don't hear people saying "Well, you shouldn't have had such a nice car, someone was bound to steal it." If a child is kidnapped, you don't say "Well, the kid was obviously asking to be kidnapped, being all cute and kid-like."

Daft, right?

ARG!

Because FUCK ants, that's why!

Le Familia

I met up with a long lost cousin (Let's call her Libra, coz that's her star sign) today for lunch. We literally haven't seen each other for 15+ years.

Ok, so we do have an age gap, because HWOSWMBO (He Who Obeys She Who Must Be Obeyed - aka my Dad) was a serious Laat Lammetjie - her Mom (my Aunt) was 17 when HWOSWMBO was born.

However, we literally sat and gabbed for over 2 hours. It was AWESOME. And her boyfriend (a totally cool laid back guy who I will call NinjaFeet coz he was wearing ninja shoes! And yes that's his website) was totally awesome as well.

Hopefully Libra, NinjaFeet and AntiSocialHusband and I will meet up at some point again. It's not often that you get to meet up with people where you can just yak and reminisce and eat carrot cake and drink cappuccinos.

And as a reward for reading through all that huggy feely family stuff, here's a funny video:

Bros before...

So a while ago, a friend of mine (let's call her SugarTits - coz she's sweet and has a great rack) posted a picture of her goddaughter and the goddaughter's boyfriend. They're both in high school and it was a very sweet and innocent picture.

Unfortunately, some of the boyfriend's friends chose to make some stupid remarks about rape on the picture posted on SugarTits' FB wall(which is fodder for another blog on another day). SugarTits and friends (myself included) called these boys out, and thankfully goddaughter came out with a scathingly beautiful comment about the appropriateness and maturity of those comments.

What was sad though, was the boyfriend's reaction to those comments. He was very wishy-washy, "hahahhahaha, stop you guys, hahahahahah that's enough, oh you!". The moment that it came about that his friends were in trouble and we were taking them to task for those stupid comments, he came out with a far more aggressive response in defense of his friends.

Friends who made jokes about rape and his girlfriend. Let's just remember that. His reaction to his friends was ridiculous. When his friends got called on their behaviour though, he became their knight in shining blackberry.

Which led me to think, was this a case of Bros before Hos? Where does the line get drawn? Is it ok if your friends say "no brakes on the rape train" about your girlfriend, just because they're your friends? What if they said that about your sister? Your cousin? Your aunt? Your mother?

I find it a little sad that parents and schools are raising boys to think that "boys will be boys" and "bros before hos" will cover any and all situations. Boys will be men, they deserve to be raised as such. It's insulting to raise them to behave in any other manner. 

Oh boy

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